Saturday, April 27, 2013
4 Things I have Learned About Motherhood
When people say there is no manual for parenting, they were so right! I have definitely been learning as I go and I know I will continue to as Chloe grows. So, I have made a list of 5 things (I am sure this list could be a lot longer but I will spare you!) I have learned on this journey.
1.) People will always be judging you as a parent and want to give you advice.
When Chloe was around two months, I took her to the store with me and it was rainy outside. Just like any outing, people stopped us to take a look at the baby. There was an older woman who said to Chloe in baby talk, "Poor baby, Mommy's got you out in the rain!" I wanted to say to her in baby talk, "Mind your own business!" I guess she did not know that rain does not stop just because you need to go grocery shopping. My point is, people will always look at you with your child and judge everything you do but I have learned to brush it off. Every mother knows what is right for their child and what works for one family might not work for another. I am all about getting advice from someone who is a parent. So, as long as I am not being judged and it is just advice, I will damn sure take all the advice I can get!
When I was pregnant with Chloe, I did a lot of researching on breastfeeding and I knew it was something I wanted to do for my child. I know everyone's experience with breastfeeding is different but I wish someone would have prepared me for how hard it could be mentally and physically. When she was born, she had a hard time latching and the nurse gave us a nipple shield. It is basically a nipple for your nipple! All joking aside, it is supposed to help the baby latch on to the breast better.
3.) You will always feel guilty, even when you shouldn't.
4.) Worry is a mother's middle name!
I am sure I am not the only mother who feels their child's tummy to make sure it is moving up and down to make sure they are still alive! I remember when Chloe was first born, I felt like I had to stay up 24 hours a day to monitor her. Worrying will drive you up the wall, so I try to worry about things that are really something to worry about but it is hard, let me tell you!